Safeguarding Autistic Children From Unlawful Communication Burdens and Proposing Reasonable Accommodations for Custody and Visitation Orders
This service is for families involved in custody or visitation cases where an autistic child’s communication differences are being misunderstood, overlooked, or unfairly burdened by court expectations.
It is especially helpful when:
- your child is nonspeaking, minimally speaking, uses AAC, or communicates differently
- court orders assume typical communication (phone calls, verbal reciprocity, transitions and routines)
- your child is being labeled uncooperative or noncompliant due to disability
- professionals disagree about how your child communicates
- decisions are being made without truly understanding your child’s daily life
What This Service Does
I help courts, lawyers, and guardians understand how your autistic child actually communicates in daily life, so decisions about custody and visitation are lawful, realistic, and safe for your child.
I do this by:
- observing how your child shows yes, no, comfort, distress, fatigue, and joy
- identifying what makes communication easier or harder
- noticing when communication demands cause stress or shutdown
- explaining these findings to the court in clear, neutral language
- proposing reasonable accommodations so court orders work in real life
The goal is not to change your child.
The goal is to change what is expected of your child.
Safeguarding Autistic Children From Harm
Autistic children are often harmed in custody cases when:
- they are required to communicate in typical ways without support
- distress is misinterpreted as defiance
- silence or withdrawal is treated as refusal
- communication breakdowns are blamed on a parent or the child
- disability-related behaviors are used against them
This service exists to prevent those harms.
Communication accommodations are not special favors.
They are required under federal disability law.
What This Looks Like for Families
When appropriate and feasible, my work may include:
- observing your child in their normal routine
- spending time where your child is most comfortable
- minimizing pressure, testing, or performance demands
- using structured observation rather than interrogation
- focusing on understanding, not compliance
Your child does not have to:
- perform
- prove competence
- Speak, sign, or type on demand
- adapt to a rigid protocol
This work respects your child as they are.
What This Service Is Not
To be clear, this service is:
- not therapy
- not medical or mental health treatment
- not a custody evaluation
- not choosing sides between parents
- not diagnosing or labeling
I do not decide custody.
I help courts make lawful, informed decisions.
How This Helps the Court
Dr. Henny Kupferstein provides neutral, non-clinical consultation to courts, guardians ad litem, and legal counsel to support:
- understanding of functional communication access in daily life contexts
- safeguarding autistic children from unlawful communication burdens
- identification of reasonable accommodations related to custody and visitation orders
- translation of communication needs into clear, enforceable court language
Legal and Best-Practice Foundation
This service is grounded in:
- ADA effective communication requirements (Title II and III)
- individualized analysis rather than categorical assumptions
- evidence-informed best practices for autism communication access
- the critical distinction between communication access and undue influence
Professional position statements are considered, but legal obligations under the ADA remain paramount.
Core Functions
Dr. Kupferstein:
- evaluates communication access barriers
- distinguishes access from compliance or influence
- identifies safeguards that protect autonomy
- reviews and synthesizes standardized observational data
- proposes reasonable accommodations suitable for court orders
She does not provide forensic opinions, clinical treatment, or ultimate issue determinations.
Why Courts and GALs Use This Service
This consultation helps courts:
- comply with federal disability law
- avoid misinterpreting autistic communication
- reduce reliance on adversarial expert battles
- issue stable, durable custody and visitation orders
- minimize appeal risk related to communication access failures
How Neutrality Is Maintained
Neutrality is ensured through:
- clearly defined scope of opinion
- standardized, structured methodology
- equal access to reports by all parties
- avoidance of ex parte substantive communication
- focus on observable communication behavior, not intent or credibility
A Bridge Between Families and Courts
I help families explain how their autistic child communicates, and I help courts use that understanding to make lawful, workable custody and visitation orders.
About Dr. Henny Kupferstein
Dr. Henny Kupferstein is an autistic professional with a PhD in psychology who serves as a neutral consultant to courts on functional communication access and reasonable accommodations for autistic children.
Her work combines:
- formal academic training
- lived autistic expertise
- extensive experience supporting hundreds of families
- evidence-informed curricula
- structured, defensible methodology
She specializes in functional communication access in daily life contexts, where court orders actually operate.
Getting Started
Parents, attorneys, or guardians may begin by:
- Identifying the communication challenges created by current or proposed court orders
- Requesting neutral consultation focused on communication access
- Allowing records review and observation as appropriate
- Permitting findings to be shared with the court, GAL, and counsel
Bottom Line
Autistic children deserve to be understood before decisions are made about their lives.
This service exists to ensure that understanding is accurate, lawful, and usable by the court.
Get Started
Neutral consultation on communication access must be authorized by the court or requested by counsel. Parents may begin by sharing this service description with their attorney or Guardian ad Litem to determine whether appointment of these services would assist the court.